“I really need a job please just help me.”
This is the exact message I received in a recent email. When I read it, it made me sad. Knowing the pain and struggle this person must have felt when they sent that message. I have felt that way before. If you have not, count yourself blessed.
Give a man a fish and he eats for a day. Teach a man to fish and he drinks beer in a boat all day… Wait, well, you know what I mean. This is where one may think I am insensitive. But sometime the best help we can give someone is to be honest with each other.
Let’s learn to fish…
“I” – Very descriptive about identifying who needs and who has responsibility
“really”- Descriptive, added emphasis, no doubt it is a sincere, felt, emotionally call
“need”- Not a want, nor desire, nor option, but a have to, must have, need
“a job”- Any job, anywhere, anytime, anything, any amount of hours, no matter what it is
“please”- A plea, an acknowledgement that it is not someone else’s responsibility. A request, asking, admitting one needs another
“just”- Only, nothing more, nothing less. Anything other than a job is not requested, asked for nor wanted or needed
“help”- Assistance, favor lighten the load, carry a portion, carry it all, lift up, hold hand, encourage
“me”- Bringing it back to the one who needs, the requester, the one in need
Here is the best advice I ever learned. “No one cares more about your career than you do.”
Here is the fishing lesson.
“No-one”- Nada, zip, no Mom, no Dad, no friend, no stranger, no CEO, no recruiter, no BFF…etc.
“cares”- Heart felt emotion, love, respect, coddles, cuddles, protects, feeds, maintains, hugs,…etc.
“more”- More…a larger amount, bigger, greater
“about”- what it is, of what, for
“your career”- A series of jobs, your need, means of survival, source of money, fulfillment, provides for self and family needs and wants. Ever growing…
“than”- instead, additional load, rather
“you”- YOU, one in the mirror, no one else, with others, leader, responsible, accountable, mature, grown, proud
“do”- Action, achievement, act, walk, talk, win, acquire
An employer hires someone to meet their own need and those of their companies. Very few places exist where jobs are available for solely the benefits of an individual. While I understand the intent, we have to be honest and look at what skills, experience and talents we bring to an employer. It is my responsibility to identify an open position for which I am qualified. I must then demonstrate this in a resume or application in order to get an interview. At the interview, I must continue to demonstrate my skills, willingness and ability to learn and excel thru past performance, and presentation of myself as a quality future employee. The more I practice this, the better I get at it. A job search IS a full time job.
There are many, many resources available to assist in your career search. Start here and “Be all you can be!” I know you can do it, now you must believe in yourself.
Some people say I have attitude – maybe I do… but I think you have to. You have to believe in yourself when no one else does – that makes you a winner right there.